Therapy Spotlight: Couple’s Counseling
One of the services we provide to the community here in Palm Beach is couples, marriage, and family therapy. Throughout my time as a therapist, I have worked with countless clients who struggled with infidelity through sex or pornography addictions. Dealing with those issues is not only a personal issue, but one that also involves the spouse. It can be a difficult struggle to deal with, and one that we are all too keenly aware of here at Cornerstone.
What if I feel like it’s hard to communicate?
In addition to those types of struggles, often as partners come together, there are bound to be hiccups along the way. Slowly over time, it can be natural for husband and wife to grow apart or feel disconnected. Sometimes it can even happen in what feels like an overnight change. Suddenly, the ‘honeymoon’ period is over, reality sets in, and one partner feels as though the other just isn’t present, or isn’t attentive to the other’s needs. This can often happen with younger couples when children enter the equation. One may be committed to working to make sure to provide for the family, but miss out on family time. These types of struggles are common, but can wear on any relationship.
Why can’t my spouse see things my way?
Just as with any interactions between two people, there are always different perspectives. Imagine a situation where you’re driving down a road with a passenger next to you. You may see a large banyan tree up ahead on the right, but the passenger may notice the puffy-cheeked squirrel that’s climbing it. You’re both present to the same surroundings but you’re attention is focused on different parts. Later that day if you mention that tree, your friend may have no idea what you’re talking about, just as you might not have been aware of the squirrel. In couples therapy, we focus on helping you recognize how the other feels and why. We work on rebuilding those connections and helping to coach and teach both partners ways to communicate better.
How to fill the ‘Love Bank’
This may sound easier said than it is done, and that’s also part of why couples therapy is often necessary. When the ‘love bank’, as I like to call it, is empty, it can be difficult to trust your partner or spouse with even the simplest of things. That’s where our experts come in. We’re trained to help you deal with and cope with those challenges. We work on re-establishing connections so you and your partner can start to fill that bank with positive experiences.
If you feel disconnected, lost, or as though your relationship will benefit from couples therapy, feel free to reach out to us. We’re here to help! Schedule an appointment today!